BITCH!

TW – refers to SA, contains bad language “You Fucking Frigid Bitch!!!” Words spat at me 43 years ago, almost to the day. A privileged man, not liking me saying “no, I’m not ready yet”. I had thought we were friends, I was wrong. The shouting, the tearing of my clothes, the utter contempt as … Continue reading BITCH! →

joy

1.1.26 My 2025 word of the year was Joy. I have learned since I’ve been getting a word of the year, that I can’t take it in a literal way. That the universe is going to guide me with this word, in some way. Sometimes straightforward, sometimes painful, sometimes alone, but usually in the company … Continue reading joy →

expect

High expectations often lead to huge disappointments.. This is the season of expectations. From very small, we are fed excitement and expectations for the festive season. Presents, Santa, food, decorations, “the excitement of Christmas”, family harmony… as we get older those expectations move from the shoulders of others to ourselves. If you are a people … Continue reading expect →

worth

In my late night reel scrolling the algorithm has sent a Scottish jeweller to me. She buys mostly estate lots of jewellery at auction, brings them home, sorts through them, while we watch. There is something very poignant about seeing someone’s life’s collection of treasured pieces through the lens of someone who loves jewellery and … Continue reading worth →

lemon

This blog started life as a recipe blog... and then I discovered I liked the wrting more than the recipe testing lol; but occasionally I still get asked to share a recipe or two.... Lemon cake with Gin and Tonic syrup and a White Chocolate Cream Cheese Icing I recently made this cake for a … Continue reading lemon →

letters

A friend of mine is celebrating a birthday this weekend. In lieu of presents she has asked us to write letters. How long we’ve known her; what we mean to each other; what we love about her and what we might find challenging. She will save them all in an album. I’m all for it. … Continue reading letters →

chemistry

I was watching a documentary recently, about a family who had lost a son. His sister had the tragic job of letting her siblings know. She said that there are moments in our lives that actually change our brain chemistry. And it struck me as so true. There are those moments good and bad, that … Continue reading chemistry →

first

I am currently doing a 30 day writing challenge with a friend. while some of the pieces are quite personal. some are food for a blog... here is one of them... My first love A recent conversation with my BFF, abut the brief time we dated best friends when we were 16 has made me … Continue reading first →

spirituality

Just as a candle cannot burn without fire; so People cannot live without a spiritual life -Buddha Sometimes I think there are 2 sides to recovery – Abstinnce, be it substances or behaviours; and the search for spirituality. Both are correct. There is no right or wrong. I have found my recovery has been the … Continue reading spirituality →

away

I am currently doing a 30 day writing challenge with a friend. while some of the pieces are quite personal. some are food for a blog... here is one of them... If you could run away, where would you go? This Is easy… There is a tiny village called Kaikōura, on the eastern side of … Continue reading away →